Friendship doesn’t mean just talking, moving along or eating at some posh restaurants. It also doesn’t mean to associate with people who you need circumstantially or people of immense wealth or any social standing that you can exploit to your own advantage. Real and authentic friendship goes beyond such weak walls of social and economical conditions which are not that strong enough to defend the relationship-cum-circumstantial storms. The cunning and smart people of today have objectified friendship. For them friends are only the rugs of a ladder to reach some highest position in life.
Friendship among people means that they are ready to listen sincerely to their needs and genuine concerns without putting on the glasses or blinkers of judgment and analysis. It means to be truly concerned, transparent, compassionate, honest and sincere towards those who you think that are special to you in one or the other way. It also means to accept your friends in their original nature and that too without having any hidden intention to overhaul their personality. Keeping one or two friends in life is far better than those hundreds to whom you can’t devote quality time and quality relationship which demand unalloyed trust and unshakable faith.
Most friendships today usually start with a bang but sadly end with a whimper. They just fizzle out. The only reason that can be ascribed here is that we look for rich friends instead of enriching our friendship. We look for wealthy friends instead of making our friendship wealthy with the gems of trust, compassion and genuine respect. The big problem arises when, instead of changing ourselves at all, we get adamant in changing the original nature of our friends.
At last I can only say that a true friend is one whom you can trust to share your best kept secret of life and such trust doesn’t come so easily as we think. Such trust becomes only possibly when we have really nourished the plant of friendship with the waters of caring and respect for other feelings. Before I could finish this post, I am just reminded of those four deep questions as asked by Dr. Stephen Johnson to check whether your friends are real ones or just phony ones:
Do you have at least one person nearby whom you can call on in times of personal distress?
Do you have several people whom you can visit with little or no advance warning?
Do you have several people with whom you share recreational activities?
Do you have friends who will lend you money, or those who will care for you in practical ways when the need arises?