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Have you ever thought what prompts each and everyone of us to indulge in fights with others or what is the reason behind our idiotic fights and arguments?
Have you ever felt sad, deeply hurt, shocked, and immensely disappointed when you come to see someone from other race, caste, religion taking out sword or gun against their counterparts?
Have you ever thought why people around the world keeps on fighting with each other when they come to know about something controversial or contentious related to family, organization, company, race, nation, religion, gender, region, sect, caste, etc?
Did you ever take some time to reflect seriously on why there are some people who go on killing and maiming mercilessly one another in the name of some far fetched theory, ideology, philosophy, region, nation, etc?
Did it ever feel to you why even most wise, sharp, and intelligent people keeps on sticking adamantly to their false and shallow theories and concepts about life and other essential issues related to human?
Have you even seen people taking strong but idiotic stand or wrangling over unnecessary and petty arguments as if what they have been saying is something most sacred in society?
If the answers to the questions asked above are in affirmative then you are advised to go through the following most insightful article by M Scott Peck, who authored one of the revolutionary and great works on human psychology i.e ‘The Road Less Travelled’. The article below is just one of the content of ‘The Road Less Travelled’ which would definitely strike chord with your soul and compel you to such a great degree that you would not fail to reflect on your own ideologies and concepts that you are carrying in your minds. M Scott Peck says that…
Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know where we are, and if we have decided where we want to go, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we generally will be lost. While this is obvious, it is something that most people to a greater or lesser degree choose to ignore. They ignore it because our rout to reality is not easy. First of all, we are not born with maps; we have to make them, and the making requires effort. The more effort we make to appreciate and perceive reality, the larger and more accurate our maps will be. But many do not want to make this effort. Some stop making it by the end of adolescence. Their maps are small and sketchy, their views of the world narrow and misleading. By the end of middle age most people have given up the effort. They feel certain that their maps are complete. To them their maps become something inviolable and sacred and so they are no longer interested in new information. It is as if they are tired. Only a relative and fortunate few continue until the moment of death exploring the mystery of reality, ever enlarging and refining and redefining their understanding of the world and what is true.
But the biggest problem of map-making is not that we have to start from scratch, but that if our maps are to be accurate we have to continually revise them. The world itself is constantly changing. Glaciers come, glaciers go. Cultures come, cultures go. There is too little technology, there is too much technology. Even more dramatically, the vantage point from which we view the world is constantly and quite rapidly changing. When we are children we are dependent, powerless. As adults we may be powerful. Yet in illness or in an infirm old age we may become powerless and dependent again. When we have children to care for, the world looks different from when we have none; when we are raising infants, the world seems different from when we are raising adolescents. When we are poor, the world looks different from when we are rich. We are daily bombarded with new information as to the nature of reality. If we are to incorporate this information, we must continually revise our maps, and sometimes when enough new information has been accumulated, we must make very major revisions. The process of making revisions, particularly major revisions, is painful, sometimes excruciatingly painful. And herein lies the major source of many of the ills of mankind.
What happens when one has striven long and hard to develop a working view of the world, a seemingly useful, workable map, and then is confronted with new information suggesting that that view is wrong and the map needs to be largely redrawn. The painful effort required seems frightening, almost overwhelming. What we do more often than not, and usually unconsciously, is to ignore the new information. Often this act of ignoring is much more than passive. We may denounce the new information as false, dangerous, heretical, the work of the devil. We may actually crusade against it, and even attempt to manipulate the world so as to make it conform to our view of reality. Rather than try to change the map, an individual may try to destroy the new reality. Sadly, such a person may expend much more energy ultimately in defending an outmoded view of the world than would have been required to revise and correct it in the first place.